Is your child suffering from bedwetting?

mika's picture

Average: 4.5 (8 votes)

Bed wetting (also written "bedwetting) is involuntary urination while asleep after the age at which bladder control would normally be anticipated. The medical term for this condition is "nocturnal enuresis."

Most therapists still try to suggest that the main reasons for bed wetting are simply physical (e.g. neurological) or behavioral (e.g. deep sleep) and thus emphasis is drawn to superficial and simplistic techniques and medications for avoiding the bed wetting such for example by using alarms with sensors that are sensitive to wetness.

But, as a matter of fact, in most cases the real cause for bed wetting is evidently emotional and thus the effective solution is psychological.

Bed wetting, almost always, is an authentic voice of a child whose needs and wants has been suppressed systematically by his parents. It happens to pleasing "good" children, providing them the last authentic rebellion voice that keeps them sane and balanced.

Whenever such a child expresses a wish which is not compatible with the parent's wish, whether it is a small request or a big one, it is responded with "No", "Impossible", "Not now" and so on. All of us are well acquainted with this pattern of refusal and disregard both as a requesting child as well as an annoyed parent. However, most parents are not aware in real time of this automatic pattern of continuous negative reactions stemming from their own narcissistic agenda and their own convenience and needs. As a result, the depending child who struggles to secure the love of his parents, ceases to express his wants and adopts a pattern of suppressing his authentic and natural needs resulting in a enormous mental stress.

Bed wetting is a default expression of this stress, it is an authentic voice of the "I that wants", a last resort for him to manifest. In a search for an expression, he finds this uncontrollable means in which the want cannot be supressed no matter how much the child will be scolded. Actually, The more the child senses that the bed wetting becomes a burden for his parents, the more the phenomenon increases.

The solution is straightforward:

First, parents should investigate their own narcissistic needs and learn to compromise on them for the needs of their dependent child. They must consciously dislocate a part of their attention from themselves to the child, no matter how hard and painful it is for them, being themselves neglected children who try to compensate for the lack of attention they suffered from their parents in their own childhood.

Then, they must stop categorizing any demands of the child upfront as pampered and selfish. They must try to acknowledge, accept, and fulfill the child's needs and wants as if they are their own needs and wants, understanding that these needs and wants are natural and that their fulfillment is vital for the child's proper development.

With this attention and new approach, the bed wetting problem will soon dissolve on its own and most importantly the child will start feeling secure, fulfilled and one with his parents. Try it for the sake of your child and you will see the truth in it!

solo's picture

Both psychological and spiritual

I like this.

At first look, it seems as a pure psychological analysis. But then you realize that there is no such clear cut between spiritual and psychological and that the most vital component of both of them is awareness, is presence, is not acting automatically on our conditioning.

In other words, there is no need for some paranormal or metaphysical stuff for something to be spiritual.

solo | Sun, 03/07/2010 - 15:50
ruby246's picture

Hi Mika - Interesting to

Hi Mika -

Interesting to read your blog - enjoyed it - I have no doubt that in some cases your theory is indeed the root cause of bedwetting for some children - but I would not agree with your overall assumptions. I would be interested to know if you have specific research to support your view and also have you any informatiion or research on why boys bed wet for much longer than their sisters.

regards, ruby.

ruby246 | Fri, 07/27/2012 - 17:23