You cannot force somebody else to understand you

dora's picture

Average: 4.9 (11 votes)

You cannot force somebody else to understand you.

You cannot take responsibility for him nor you need to.

You try your best to explain and either he will understand or not. Now or some day.

Regardless of whether your understanding is true or not.

And at that point his story ends and your story begins. His understanding ends and your understanding begins.

Inspect what are the true reasons you want him so much to understand you.

Understanding your reasons, you must strive to be indifferent whether he understands you or not.

From this indifference will arise a new quality of explanation.

Now, with the new quality of explanation, there are much greater chances that somebody else will understand you.

kalgo's picture

From ego to compassion

The old reasons to convince are ego and our own uncertainty that what we think is right. If more people get convinced that we are right then, we feel, more chances that we are indeed right.

The new quality of explanation is compassion. The convincer with his ego and uncertainty are no more a factor. Only the other.

But it needs to be a true and pure compassion, not a fake one disguising the old ego and uncertainty.

kalgo | Sat, 10/17/2009 - 09:04
soul's picture

very nice....

so true...

thanks and blessings...

soul | Sun, 10/18/2009 - 03:42
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

Sow You Understanding Only!

Very true, including the fact it is not ones responsibility to attempt to force understanding. Anything one gives or receives should be received with skepticism, awaiting evidence and substance to support the concepts received. Every new piece of information should be placed in the "to be proven" file unless one have experienced it one way or another.

Once one has given their evidence and reasoning for their views it's up to the receiver. Jesus called it "the sower went forth to sow" and implied it's up to the soil [mind] receiving it as to determine the final disposition.

Have you questioned your beliefs? Reason the different concepts until all pros and cons are integrated into the 64,800 degrees of your vision.
--Elijah "The NatureBoy"--

Elijah_NatureBoy | Fri, 02/11/2011 - 13:43