WHAT IS TRUE LOVE ?

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Love is not love that is the result of our outward enjoyments, the physical enjoyments. Everybody repeats that he loves God, that he loves somebody, but how many really know what love is? Love is the attraction of the heart to something. It is a question of heart not of head. When the heart wishes something, there will be radiation and that will react to where the thoughts are directed. So as I told you, it is a subject of the heart and not of head. Whoever has got love knows service and sacrifice. There is no question of high or low, the king or the subject. Even kings are made to sit on the floor as a result of love. Love knows giving away everything, including your body and soul. It is a matter of surrender to somebody's will, to whom you are attached at heart.
Love is innate in our souls. God is love and our souls are the drops of the Ocean of all love, which is
also love personified. But love knows attachment. The love of the soul which should be attached to the Oversoul, or God, has been attached to the physical things and outward enjoyments. That very love has been turned into attachment. You go where? Where you are attached. That thing within your mind is where you are attached, the love of which you have got in your heart. If you have got love for worldly things, naturally you will come again and again to the world. If you have got love for God or the God-in-man, then where will you go? - where He will go. If He is not going round and round on the Wheel of Transmigration, how will you go! He comes from the Father and goes back to the Father. He comes with a commission to take souls back to God. So love is love if it is directed to God, otherwise it is attachment. We have just to think deeply in our heart what we want, with Whom we have got real love. Real love is not a business, mind that. It knows surrender and dedication of everything to Him. How is real love developed? If you love somebody, you will naturally have sweet remembrance of him always in your heart. If you want to develop love, then just have sweet remembrance of God all the day and night. The most effective way is to sit by One who is over-flowing with the love and intoxication of God. His soul is intoxicated with the love of God. In whatever company you sit, you will have the same radiation. If you sit by a wrestler, you will develop a real love for strength. If you sit by a learned man, your love will grow for literary things. If you sit by somebody who is overflowing with the love of God, naturally you will have that same love by radiation. The Koran of the Mohammedans says, "For every lover there should be some Beloved". We are souls, conscious entities. Our beloved should be the Oversoul, who is all Consciousness, who is God. We have made the world our beloved and naturally we come again and again. So our love should be for God. It should be developed, but it can only be developed if you sit in the sweet company of the God-in-man, who is overflowing with Godhood. Then naturally, you will have love by radiation. Your soul will be injected with love. Love knows service and sacrifice, no will of its own.
I was just telling the story of a king, who had four wives. He was going to some foreign land and asked his wives what present they would like, what he should bring for them. Every wife had something of her own liking, but the youngest was the greatest lover of the king. She wrote to him, "Well, I want you only, and nothing else. You come back." So naturally, when the king returned, he sent the presents to his other wives and he went to the youngest wife.
This is only to show that what you really want, that you will be given. There is a saying of the Masters that God has promised to give everything that a man wants, what his soul really desires. We simply say superficially that "O God, we want You," but at the bottom, we want worldly things. If you have got real love for God in your heart, God will come to you, He will manifest to you. But generally, we want only worldly things, here and hereafter. Those who care for the love of God don't hanker after the worldly things, nor the wealth of the other worlds. They don't even want emancipation. They would like to have only one thing. No heaven, no earthly things, not emancipation, only to be with God, that's all. If we have really got that hankering in our heart, then naturally we must meet God. God will come to us. If we take one step that way, He will proceed one hundred steps to receive us. We have to decide what we want at our heart of hearts. Are we here only for the worldly things? Are we here only for the name and fame of the world? Are we here only to have things of the other world, or heaven? Are we really after emancipation from birth and death? A real lover wants none of these things. He wants God and God alone. This is the highest ideal that we can achieve in the man-body, and in no other. So you have to decide by an honest searching of your heart, what you want. If you want God, then God will meet you, sure and certain. If you want something else, you will have it, that's all. You will get nothing short with whatever you want. But why, when you go to a King, do you want ordinary pebbles and stones? So we should judge how we stand, day by day. The result of reading scriptures, doing penances, performing this or that, ritual, or doing one pilgrimage or another, all depends on the amount of love that you have got in your heart of hearts. If you have developed love for God, well and good. If not, then ...... ? you must be going round in transmigration. It is a matter of only directing your attention, this way or that way.



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Bulleh Shah was a Saint of India. When he came to his Master, who was working in a garden at that time, putting some plants here, some there, Bulleh Shah asked Him how God could be met. "Oh it is very easy," replied Bulleh Shah's Master, "it is just like taking one plant from here and putting it over there."
So you are to divert your attention from the world to God, that's all. God is already within you, He is not living in the Heavens. He is the very Power that is controlling you in the body. So this is what is wanted, just see where you stand. If you want God, or the God-in-man, you will have Him. These are things we have to check daily, where we stand. We have been doing one sort of practice or the other, or joining different schools of thought, for years and years. What is the fruit? What is the net result? Have you developed love for God? If so, you have made a true profit from your man-body. If not, then ........ ? You have made the preparation to come back again and again. So love needs no performance, rituals or outer labels. It does not even want your body. It is a matter between you and God. The man-body is given to you as a golden opportunity in which you can direct your soul to God. You will go where you are attached. Very simple, no philosophy required. If you are really attached at heart to God, or the God-in-man, naturally you won't return. You will go where He goes.
Masters do not want any man to change his outward forms or rituals. Remain where you are. You are souls, conscious entities. You have been endowed with this golden opportunity of man-body. Just direct your soul towards the very Power that is controlling you in the body. The body is the true Temple of God, in which you as well as God reside. Outward forms or rituals, or labels of one school of thought or another, make no difference. The Master looks at you from the level of the soul, not from the label that you are wearing on your body. He looks to you as man, as soul. The same Controlling Power is active in your heart.
Have you understood what is love? It is a subject of heart, not of head. A very learned man may be devoid of heart. Love overrules head, but sometimes head stands in the way of love, of the heart. These are the things that we have to judge day to day, how far we have developed love and in which way, this side or that side. To the world or to the WORD. W-O-R-L-D spells world. If you take out "L" from the word WORLD, then it becomes WORD. When you lose the ego of "I-hood" by becoming a conscious co-worker of the Divine Plan, you are Word. GOD is WORD. "The Word was in the beginning, the Word was with God and the Word was God". Spirituality is not difficult. It is I think, a most natural, most easy way.
In the worldly things, you have to make a hypothesis and put in years and years of study. Even then, you cannot boast that you know everything of the worldly things. But by doing the other way, you come to the root of all Creation. It is only to direct your attention from this side to that side. This is the way to God, now you can judge what you want. You will have everything that you want in due course, but why not want God, that you may be His and He may be yours ? Nobody else to intervene, neither body, mind or anything in the outside world.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:11
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So Masters always give this advice or wise counsel to the people at large, irrespective of whether they belong to one school of thought or the other. To the Masters, there is no difference whether you reside in a church, a temple, a gurudwara, or a mosque. These places are meant for worshipping God, to develop love for God. Merely attending these places is not sufficient. You must see what you have developed as a result. All these performances boil down to what? Just that a man is taken away. In conscription, I would say, a man is taken by force. He has to labour all day long, and in the evening he gets no wages. At the time of birth, you are helpless and neither do you get anything when you leave. So what is the use? The fruit of all outward performances, reading of scriptures, doing practices, penances, is to see how far you have developed love for God. The best way to develop this is to meet somebody who is overflowing with the love of God, with the intoxication of God. This intoxication can be had where? Eyes are the windows of the soul and the soul peeps out of them. In whatever way a soul is imbued, you have the same radiation through the eyes. When we went to bow down to Him, our Master said, "What is down there? look at me!" So the eyes are the most effective way of having that radiation. You will forget everything, your body, the world, everything. Judge every day how far you have developed love for God. This is the highest thing you can develop in the man-body, and in no other body. These things are not only for reading. You have simply to see what love you have developed in your body. One saint said, "If you have not developed love for God, you have simply laden yourself with books, with scriptures, laden over like an ass". You have filled libraries in your brain, not a drop of it in your soul. Once a student, who was carrying a book under his arm, went to see Ramakrishna Paramhans and was asked by him, "What is that book that you are carrying?" The student replied that it showed how to make water. Ramakrishna Paramhans laughed and said, "All right, squeeze some of the pages of the book and see how many drops of water ooze out." You follow what he meant? So simply reading books is a first step. It is not all. How many drops of water could be squeezed from the pages of the book? You speak of God, speak of God-in-man, speak of love of God, but how many drops of love have you got? This is to be con-sidered. We don't care for these things. We simply stick to the outer things. We lay down our life for them and that is deterioration, I would say. Make the best use of them. Know that you are to develop God consciousness, and to be aware of how much love that you have developed for God. So I would say, step by step, this is the highest thing to be attained. When you are attached to the church, ritual, penances, this and that thing, sometimes God is forgotten, and they take the foremost place. We have laid down everything for these outward things and have forgotten God. This is deterioration. Further deterioration comes when you forget God, even the church, every-thing. For selfish ends, you become the protectors and the contractors of the cults of the schools of thought which you have professed, and so there is dissention and strife. You follow now, what they lead to? So just see how far you have developed. With all that you have read, with all your carrying in your arms, in your brain, what is the result? Do you remember God, or when you hear the name of God, does your heart become full and tears flow down your cheeks? Then it's all right. It is something on the way. There is hope. As when you see clouds there is hope for rain, or when there are blossoms on a tree there is hope for fruit. Otherwise, excuse me, all is fruitless. After all, for good things you will have reactions of good, but that will not bear the true fruit to reach God.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:14
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I have no rituals, no forms, nothing of the sort here. No temple, no church, no mosque. Why? because what I am telling you is the highest thing. Remain where you are, you are not to leave your religions but to make the best use of them, and see how far you have proceeded, advanced, progressed on the Way. So that is one of the reasons why I have no church, temple or anything. I take them as the elementary steps. People are stuck fast to them. They don't bear the fruits of performing the rituals or methods of outward performances. Here we have no forms, we do not care what label you are wearing, or what school of thought you have belonged to. We never care for it, we want just to enjoy that you are a man, you are a soul. The same God is within you. You must rise in that God consciousness. This is the main purpose of Ruhani Satsang, what we are after here. This is what the world needs today. Do not judge on outward appearances. If there is a mound of filth, over which a silken cloth is spread, do you mean to say that there will be no odour from it ? So we can deceive the world, but not the God within us. Take to your heart what is being said. See how far you have changed, or if you are the same man with the same low nature. Outwardly you are very good, your dress is very neat. Outwardly you are making obeisance and paying homage, but the heart is not changed. What did Christ say? He said, "Change your hearts, for the kingdom of God is at hand". Change your hearts, this is what all Masters say. We don't listen to their words. We simply go on with the outward things, or do not seek further than the worldly things that we require. How many are there here who have come only for God's sake? If they have come for God's sake they will have Him, sure and certain. If they have come for some other thing, then ? They will have only that thing, not God.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:15
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Love is innate in our souls. God is love, and our souls are of the same essence as that of God. Love knows attachment to somebody. We are conscious beings, our souls are conscious entities. Our soul should be attached to the Oversoul, which is all conscious. Instead, it has been attached to the world. This is the reason why we have been coming back again and again. It should have been attached to God, or the God-in-man. If our soul is attached to Him, the result will be, wherever He will go, we will go. He is not to return to the earthly sojourn, then why should we return? So, what is love? Love is the attribute of the soul. It is already ingrained, innate in our soul. It requires attachment always and is life-giving for a man. Just like water gives life to a fish. If a fish is taken out of the water, it will simply die. There is also one sort of plant that grows in water. The more water it gets, the more it grows. Similarly, those souls which are endowed with the love of God, naturally they enjoy it just like life-giving water. It is the water of life for the soul. A man who is really detached from the world is not affected by it. Renunciation truly lies in the fact that we are not tied to the world, to anything outside. A man who has got love within him, love of God, is attached to God so much that all other things leave his mind, he is not attracted by anything else. For instance, if such a man is sitting here, there may be hundreds of others sitting around him, but he will be wholly and solely absorbed in the Master. This is a feat of love. Love also knows sacrifice. The Masters say that those who would like to play the game of love, should come with their heads cut off and placed in their palms as an offering. Even then, they would not mention what they have done. God knows the very trend of our mind, what lies in our mind. This is one fact that I show. What does one who loves want? He always wants to see the Master. He loves everything of the Master's. I was just talking about one man who attended a Pacific conference here some years ago. He was a minister of Korea, and he came here to the Ashram and was initiated. He was so much intoxicated that he would embrace all the walls and the trees of the Ashram. He would say, these are very beautiful, very loving. Why? for the sake of the Master of course. Love beautifies everything; it is but natural. Another time, one man telephoned me from America. "All right, what do you want?" I asked him. "I simply want to hear your voice, nothing else. Just talk about something," he replied. I said, "What do you want? tell me." "No, no, I just want to hear your voice." For about one hour he continued like that, he just wanted to hear my voice. You know how much that hour's telephone call must have cost him? I think no less than ...... , an ordinary telephone call costs about thirty or forty Rupees at least, only for a few words. That means at least $200.00 or even more than that.
So that is but natural. If he has got love, everything will appeal to him. There is a story in India about one Majnu, who was very fond of Laila. One day, he came across a dog and began to kiss its feet and hug it. People asked him, "What are you doing?" "Oh, ! have seen this dog going into the lane of my beloved Laila," he replied. This is love, it is but natural.
So it is said that those eyes that do not see the Master should be taken out. Those ears that do not hear the voice of the Beloved, it would be better if they were deaf. That head is blessed that bows down to the feet of the Beloved. Guru Nanak and Shamas Tabrez said that those arms should be broken that do not embrace the Master. So these are the feats of love. What does a lover want? Naturally to be near to the Master, the God in Him of course. He wants to listen to every word that the Master utters. He will follow it at any cost. "If ye love me, keep my commandments''. These things follow as a matter of course, I would say. He who loves, will follow what the Master says, whether he is in the Master's presence or away. The Master is Word personified. Whether the disciple is thousands of miles away, he is still being watched, because the Master is the Word made manifest. Sometimes the Master also manifests physically. So just meet with the wishes of the Beloved. This is what love does. And what does it cost? It costs nothing. It asks only that you should have your whole attention riveted on the Beloved. All other things will follow naturally.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:19
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Again this question comes, "What is love? Where is it? What does it want? How can it be developed?" This is what I explained yesterday. If you love somebody, he is always in your mind. If you keep somebody always in your mind, naturally you will feel attracted to him. When somebody comes to you and speaks of the Master, you take him as your true relative. So this is a feat of love. The most practical and competent way in which you can develop it is just to sit in the radiation of somebody who is overflowing with the love and intoxication of God. This is the quickest and most natural way of being, what you say, infected. You will get infected by the society of the Master, who is overflowing with the love of God. And what does it cost? It costs nothing. The Beloved wants that the lover should not look to anybody, not to hear anybody, not to think of anybody, except the Beloved. This is the feat of love. The man who has got such a love, why should he return to the world? He may return as a Teacher, as a Master, to bring back the children of God to His Home. But He will never come as a prisoner, as the reaction of the past, being attached to the world. So this is the feat of love and what it gives us.
Your attention is divided in so many ways. It is just like a pipe that has so many holes. When the water flows through the pipe, it will ooze out from each hole drop by drop. If you close all the holes except one, the water will shoot forth. So if our love, which is now divided into so many things, is withdrawn from outside and only one avenue is left, to God or the God-in-man, naturally it will shoot forth. Love is already innate in our souls, it is simply divided in so many things,-- in the body, in enjoyments, in children, for the name and fame of the world. If we just keep one hole open and direct our love there, naturally it will be detached from the others. That will work wonders.
Any words coming from the Master will be charged with His love and will radiate that love. Why do people come from thousands of miles to be here ? What for? To look at the Master, to hear His words. They can of course have the same effect even thousands of miles away, just by turning their attention towards the Master. Kabir says that if the Master lives across the ocean and you live this side, you should just direct your attention towards Him. You will get the same benefit. But even if you have that, you cannot overrate the first hand experience of having the company of the Master. So this is the feat of love. When that is developed in the body, naturally everything else will follow of itself.
When suchlike people come to the world, the world is flooded with love, because by infection, by radiation, you get the same thing. When you sit by floes of ice, naturally you get cold. If you sit by a fire, you will have heat. So if you sit by somebody who has got love and bliss of God inside of him, naturally you will have an infection like that. If you sit by a man who is dyed with lust, contempt for others, retaliation, and so many other things, naturally you will have heat, not cold. That is why the company of the Saints has been so highly spoken of by them. When you sit by somebody, that society has the same effect by radiation.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:21
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God is love, our soul is love and the way back to God is also through love. All reading of scriptures, performances of one ritual or another, is for what? So that you may have your attention directed to God. Your love which is distributed in so many ways should be one-pointed only for that reason. If that is not the result, then all your outward penances are fruitless. To speak of love is one thing, to have that love in your heart is something else. I told you yesterday that it is a subject of heart, not of head. The head may be there to understand, that's all, but we have to develop love. So you cannot reach God except through love. This love is developed as I already explained to you yesterday and have further explained today. These are the things which we have to see whether we have got in our souls, developed in our own selves. Just by touching some object, going to some place, or just singing and this and that, won't do. Just see how far you have developed love within you for God. When you think of God, or have love for God or the God-in-man, naturally you will develop those very attributes which He personifies. To hear the Sound Principle of God is just like cutting a crop and putting it in one place to have all the grain out of it. That place then becomes an abode of all the grain. If you see the Light of God or hear the Voice (Sound Principle) of God, all virtues will become embedded in you. You will have all virtues only by coming into contact with the Sound or Light of God. These things follow naturally. Here we lack, we put in less time. We put in more time for the outward things.
So first of all, you should have God consciousness all through, first personal, then universal. We care more for ritual and outward performances than the love of God. This is deterioration. Blessed are those penances or rituals, by performing which, you develop love in you for God. It is only for His sake that you perform all rituals. They are good actions of course and will react in goodness, but not in God. So remain in any country, in any school of thought, that makes no difference. The difference lies in how far you have developed love for God. Those rituals, those penances which have helped you in developing love for God are blessed. So the company of the Saints is most needed. The society of good people will naturally develop goodness in you. The society of spiritual men will develop spirituality in you. That is why it is said that a man is known by the company he keeps. So this is the feat of love. The more you develop in this way the more you are blessed, the more you are making the best use of your life. If not, then you are just taking up a way that will bring you back again and again to the world. So blessed is the man who meets with the Master, who sows the seed of Naam within you. The seed of Naam, once planted, cannot be destroyed. If you just come in contact constantly with Naam, you will have love for God. You will be detached from the world. Even the man who has just been initiated has got the seed of Naam within him. He has got some capital to start with. If he has not developed it in his life, forgotten it, he will have to come back, but not below the level of man, because in the man-body only can that seed flourish. What is the use of coming back, even as a man? Why not put in more time and develop that thing which you have got already. You can develop more love for God or the God-in-man by following His instructions. Then you are not to come back. The more you advance in the earthly life, the higher will be the plane that you will go to.
So put in more time please, to your practices. Develop love for God within you. You will be blessed. You will have made the best use of your life. We have got oceans of talk, but how many grains of action? An ounce of practice is better than tons of theory. So -- "Wanted -- reformers, not of others, but of themselves". An example is better than precept. This is what is needed. We simply take to the outer rituals and do not care for the purpose for which they were meant. People will even lay down their lives for their performance, but forget God, for whom they were meant. That is deterioration, truly speaking. The highest religion is to develop love of God and God consciousness within you; to be in His Holy Presence, I would say. He is everywhere; where is He not? We are having our very being in Him. The question only remains of opening the eye to see Him. That eye is opened by the Master. He gives you a contact with the God-into-Expression Power, which is the Light and Sound Principle. The more you put in time, all virtues will become embedded in you. So just see where you stand.

jasdir singh jaura | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:23
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Selfish Love And Divine Love

When two forces of equal quality or power meet, a third force is formed. When two people of equal force and quality are attracted towards each other, a third force is formed between them. That is termed love. This is the scientific way of explaining what love is. Attraction is Akarshana-Sakti. Repulsion is Vikarshana-Sakti. When I see myself in another man, when I see him as my own self, I begin to love him as my own self. When I find something in you that I myself possess, I am naturally drawn towards you and begin to love you. This is Vedantic way of explaining love. Love is pouring forth one's affection (Prema) on another. Love is God. Love is of two kinds, viz., selfish or physical love and real Love or divine Love which is unselfish and lasting. The first kind is love with attachment. The second one is love without attachment. He who is a real aspirant
of spiritual path, who feels his own self everywhere and a real devotee who sees God everywhere in everything can really love others. When an inferior person hangs on another person for his happiness or existence, physical attachment crops up. Attachment causes slave mentality and weak will. Attachment is death. Physical love is death. Cut all sorts of attachment by the sword of non-attachment
Divine love develop when we receive more hate from our loved once or family members in our live which create vaccum in life thus it make a place for divine love

Trilok | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:33
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VVVVVV GOOD

VVVVVV GOOD,
Very Clear Wording.

noor | Tue, 08/31/2010 - 10:56