What is the reason for all this misery, depression and tension? How to remove them?

dattaji's picture

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Let Me answer your question straight with a simple example; you have caught a hot iron rod with your hand and you are weeping. You are asking Me to remove the heat from the rod and give you happiness. For this you are constantly praying the Lord to use His special power. I have to laugh at this situation because the easiest solution is to remove your hand from the rod to be happy, which you are not doing at all. You cannot get rid of your attachment to the rod, but you pray the Lord to cool the rod using His Maya. Is this prayer justified in any way?

Why don't you get detached from your family bonds and be happy? The hand with which you have caught your family members is your mind. You detach your mind from the bonds of your family members and be peaceful always, and there is no need of praying the Lord for this. When the solution is in your hand why do you ask the Lord for it? When the solution is out of your hands there may be justice in asking the Lord. In the first stage you detach your mind from them and be worry-less. In course of time when your detachment by mind becomes complete you will spontaneously leave your duties also and attain bliss.

The detachment from the family comes by your attachment with the Lord. As the bond with the Lord becomes more and more strong, your family bonds become weaker and weaker and finally all the bonds disappear. In this state you are left over only with the bond with the Lord. This state is called "Eka Bhakthi" in Gita or the single pointed devotion. Devotion means love and this is related to the plane of mind. As the faculty of intelligence becomes more and more sharp by the knowledge preached by the Lord, the devotion to Lord becomes more and more strong. Thus, knowledge is acting as both fertilizer as well as pesticide on both the sides simultaneously.

It acts as a fertilizer for the bond with the Lord, which is like a plant. The plant grows slowly and becomes a huge tree by this fertilizer. The family bonds are like the insects that attack this devotion plant. For those insects this divine knowledge acts as a pesticide also. The knowledge is also the generating factor like the water for the seed. Only by the knowledge of the Lord, the devotion is generated. Devotion is the love or attraction towards the Lord to attain Him. It ends in agony or Vedana as told by Ramanuja. Thus, knowledge is the generating factor; the fertilizer and the pesticide simultaneously.

At the Lotus Feet of His Holiness, Sri Datta Swami

neo's picture


Unfortunately, these kinds of suggestions are futile as they are based on reason (this because of that) and belief (there is a lord): it's precisely like telling a drug addict to stop being addicted.

So many gurus have said exactly the same and if it was effective than all followers would be detached, weren't they?

There is a need to go deeper than the level of attachment and to observe and accept the reasons for attachment: the substratum feeling of skepticism, the substratum fear of boredom and emptiness and so on. Then, attachments calm down and a special connectedness from beyond the mind in beyond the mind with the beyond is established that takes care of the rest.

neo | Wed, 02/04/2009 - 12:24