What does His Holiness Shri Shri Nimishananda say about LIKES AND DISLIKES?

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All of us have likes and dislikes..for instance, I like milk but dislike curds. Sometimes, they are so predominant within us that we are either terribly attracted or have a strong aversion towards certain people and situations. I have often wondered how to overcome them, and after implementing the teachings of my Guru, I feel that my feelings are becoming more neutral.

Here is what His Holiness Shri Shri Nimishananda says about likes and dislikes -

"We have our own preferences in life. Preferences create feelings of like and dislike in us. They take root in the mind and constantly influence our thinking and behaviour. For instance, if we take a liking to certain people, we seek their company and go out of the way to help them. However, if we see a person we dislike walking towards us, we quickly cross the road to avoid him. So, we understand that our preferences dictate every thing we do. When left uncontrolled, our likes and dislikes can escalate into cravings, aversions and obsessions that rule our lives. This means our mood swings.

Indian epics depict this beautifully. In the Ramayana, the demon king Ravana developed a great infatuation for Sita, who was Lord Rama’s divine consort. It became an obsession which compelled him to kidnap and imprison Her..."

How do we get over likes and dislikes? To read the rest, visit: http://www.shrinimishamba.org/html/likesanddislikes.htm

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Reflections with love

Dear, I want to reflect you two things:

First, your insistence to always include your guru's name in the title of every post you make.

And secondly, the inclusion of a link at the bottom that turns all the text posted into a teaser, a means for something else rather than being the purpose of the act of posting as it is presented.

angel76 | Sun, 01/03/2010 - 21:12
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seeker or optimizer - that is the question :-)

It maybe a naive adoration or alternatively a naive a trial of search engine optimization (seo) but thanks God all the links from gurusfeet are automatically converted into nofollow which means that search engines ignore them for the scoring.

If there is indeed someone there (and not just an SEO employee) then there will be a response here. In this case your reflections are of great spiritual value to this person. But I think you are just naive :-)

mika | Mon, 01/04/2010 - 15:59
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Hey Mika, I appreciate your

Hey Mika,
I appreciate your feedback, and it's certainly not naive adoration. I have no personal interests concerned with that link, so there is no reason why I should want to use this website as a trial for search engine obtimisation.

There are many more teachings on this website which I have been inspired from. Providing this link is an attempt to help other spiritual seekers like myself find what might be useful to them on various other topics...

And about myself, I am still a student of 12th grade, only seeking to contribute as many useful things as I find on this website.

Maitri Vasudev | Mon, 01/04/2010 - 18:49
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Thank you!

Thank you maitri. I wish I had this access to wisdom and inspiration when I was in 12th grade, this is a true blessing you have.

Please keep on sharing his words, it seems he is a unique guru and I like his words. I was suspecion because there are so many impure attempts to use people for other purposes. I'm glad you cleared up the matter.

I was not familiar with him although I'm travelling extensively in India. Could you dedicate when you have time a post to tell more about him, where and if he has an ashram, where exactly he is in India, how you managed to find out about him and so on.


mika | Tue, 01/05/2010 - 05:47
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Yes, definitely, i will post more about my Guru soon, but there is so much about Him that i cannot do justice to it in one post, so please visit the ashram website at www.shrinimishamba.org to read an introduction of Him, His teachings and the activities of the Ashram.

I met my Guru for the first time six years ago, and it was the turning point in my life..i was eleven years old. There have been so many changes in me since then, which i will also tell you about in some of my posts. These changes have come about whenever i implement His teachings with full faith.

Shri Nimishananda Ashram is in Bangalore, India, as well as Malaysia and the USA. The contact details are also given on the website.

Lots of love..

Maitri Vasudev | Fri, 01/08/2010 - 08:58
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I'm grateful for your

I'm grateful for your reflections. I include my Guru's name in each post for better clarity. Usually, when I don't mention my Guru's name, people come back to me to ask me what it is.

I have posted what I have found most interesting, and by posting the link, I hope many more benefit from the teachings regarding various other topics as I have. It is not a teaser, but a means to an ocean of wisdom, through which other people may benefit as I have.

Maitri Vasudev | Mon, 01/04/2010 - 19:00
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Beyond 'Self'

My guru calls this Beyond Self.

I find it interesting that nobody has discussed how hard it is to do. I'm in the middle of crisis right now, created by (guess who?) He's pushed several buttons at the same time.

I heard him say that it's fine to work on yourself, to the extent that that can be done, but that's not the goal.

One of the most frustrating things in the scenario I'm in is to try to remember that the "fixes" aren't the point; staying in reality, not going microscopic is the point. It's so much easier and more ego satisfying to try and fix myself, to try to remove the buttons; I feel so reticent in not putting my effort there. Aren't we taught that that is what life is for? To improve.

Of course, our gurus disagree. Our gurus point out that allowing existance to function and flowing with it is the point. Allowing existances' music to play through you; to be the divine music of God. To get out of the way and listen to the melody--that is the point.

So when your guru says "righteousness," that is what I assume he means. (Am I wrong?)

I am beginning to recognize that the self and it's microscopic experience is hell. It is limited beyond reason, an endless loop of almost the same ups and downs, the same triggers, separated by boring mindlessness, ie.absorption in self. So I can choose to watch that some more, or I am equally free to choose endless beauty, life, dance, playfullness, joy and ectasy, even death and rebirth--but I have to stop looking at myself for a minute and refocus on what I really am.

Gilana | Thu, 03/04/2010 - 08:08
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Preference or Conscience?

Actually, I feel there's no reason to go out of the way to listen to the melody...we can hear it if we are willing to listen to it...

A Guru's teachings can be interpreted in many ways though. It depends on the point from which we perceive it..I guess your interpretation of righteousness is one facet, while there are many more.

What I have understood of righteousness in this context is that it is actually beyond likes and dislikes. Another name I would give it is 'discrimination' - the sense to differentiate between right from wrong..but how do we do that?

Sometimes, when I really want to do something which is against my conscience, I feel like I'm being split in two. One side - my like - wants to go ahead and do it, while the other - my conscience - makes me guilty. When I listen to my conscience and abstain from doing it, I'm actually happy. On the other hand, if I give in to my liking, the guilt persists.

I don't know if I've answered your question, but this is what I feel...

Maitri Vasudev | Thu, 03/11/2010 - 11:08
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"I" can't

If "I" am not out of the way, "I" will influence the music with preferences--the same as if I wandered through an orchestra, interupting the musicians. If "I" stops interpreting (interrupting) and just listens (and responds) the music can play as it will.

I never interpret any (especially my!) Guru's teachings if I can help it. I can't think of anything more dangerous. If I am in my right mind (silent) I simply listen and respond to their music. (Thank you for pointing out that potential danger, if I was in danger!)

If "righteousness" is beyond likes and dislikes, you cannot apply discrimination with accuracy. We as humans have no context to judge right or wrong. The context to do so, of course, would be the simultaneous holding in our mind (awareness of) and evaluation of every element in billions of universes, dimensions, and the activity of every atom therein, past, present and future. Isn't our only opportunity for us to apply our likes and dislikes and call them "right and wrong"?

Your conscience in this context is your assumption of right and wrong. Whatever people have ‘learned,’ whatever people have assumed from experience, forms what people call their ‘conscience.’

Osho says: "It is almost like light. Your room is dark, just bring light in. Even a small candle will do, and the whole darkness disappears. And once you have a candle you know where the door is. You don't have to think about it: "Where is the door?" Only blind people think about where the door is. People who have eyes and the light is there, they don't think. You never give a single thought to where the door is. You simply see, and there is not even a flicker of thought. You simply go out.

Exactly the same is the situation when you are beyond mind."

Then he says something that is so musical:

Truth can only arise within you. Nobody else can give it to you. And with truth comes beauty, followed by good. This is the authentic trinity of a truly religious person: truth, beauty, good. These three experiences happen when you enter into your own subjectivity, when you explore the interiority of your being.

You have been living in the porch outside your being; you have never gone in. Once you go in, you will find your buddha, your awareness, your choiceless consciousness. Then you don't have to decide what is right and what is wrong. That choiceless consciousness takes you towards the good without any effort. It is effortless."

Gilana | Thu, 03/11/2010 - 17:29
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"interpretation" was not the

"interpretation" was not the right word to use..what i meant was that each of us are in a different stage of evolution. so each person perceives the teaching of the Guru in the way we can see. for instance, if i stand on top of a mountain and look downwards, i see everything almost from a bird's perspective. on the other hand, if i am on the ground, what looks like a speck to me from the top of the mountain looms up before me..

i don't think conscience is what i have learnt as right and wrong. if you listen to the melody of the Guru, you will begin to hear His voice from within you, guiding you in the right way. this is what i call conscience.

Maitri Vasudev | Fri, 03/12/2010 - 05:30
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Certainly we all perceive from our own vantage point, whether it is caused by ideas we have accepted, or as you say, "different stages of evolution." Honestly, those two are interchangeable and I don't care which label is used. Through my own work, I'm beginning to see that once the Guru’s work is done we are all the same anyway (even though we express it completely uniquely.) I think a secret is, we are already that condition, it just takes a lot of squirming for us to finally rest there. (A visual would be: Much like puppies forming a group to finally sleep, one upon the other.)

I don't use the word right anymore in describing action (if ever, at least not with a lot of certainty.) It's too big a decision for me. I've been proven wrong when I thought it was right and vice-versa too many times and I've gotten discouraged with the attempt.

Righteousness now seems to be just not fighting with God's will any more and it seems to be as close as I can get and as close as I can hope anybody else can get. I perceive grace in your understanding to listen closely to your Guru's melody inside you and adopting his instruction--any true Guru perceives God's will more clearly than a cloudy disciple, so it must be wisdom to follow them, rather than our own messy ideas. The challenge must be to apply discrimination here--which is you and which is him?

Gilana | Fri, 03/12/2010 - 16:57
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Most of the time, i can tell

Most of the time, i can tell the difference between my own messy ideas and my Guru's prompts from within. the difference is so clear - my ideas are full of dilemma, where i can't decide which way to go, or some headlong decision which leads me into a mess. but when i stop and pray to my Guru to show me the right way, it invariably comes as a calm and decisive instruction. although i can't really hear His voice within me, i know that it is Him...

Maitri Vasudev | Fri, 03/19/2010 - 12:31
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Instruction from "above"

So, just as well, it could be your own clear wisdom, your own guru, your own buddha coming through. It could be existence itself! But isn't that what a guru if for? To blame him for our own wisdom? I blame mine all the time.

In the end it doesn't matter if it's guru or self. It's clarity and wisdom that are the important parts...just so we follow that, no matter where it comes from.

The only potential trap--not to recognize in the spectrum of "truth" the highest we can (and that is best for us to) get to. Getting stuck at a lower "truth" because our ego still has hold of our shirt as we are straining to climb the ladder.

Thanks gurus out there for helping--thanks for taking the blame.

My guru said recently, "Don't worry about anything you do wrong. It's God's fault, not yours."

Gilana | Fri, 03/19/2010 - 18:16
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Definitely..it is clarity

Definitely..it is clarity that finally matters. And your own buddha is no different from your Guru, so no matter where it comes from i always get the feeling that it is my Guru telling me..anyway, it keeps me away from the clutches of ego which would otherwise tell me that "I" knew what "I" am doing.

Maitri Vasudev | Sat, 03/20/2010 - 19:02