Sprituality and Sex

joejo's picture

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Sex is a sensitive issue and has always drawn sharp reactions. But if we are sincere it behooves us to understand it fully. Before we proceed I want to make it clear that i am enjoying a happy married family life. Hey! but since when did the truth of the matter have to do with personal predicament or biases. Another point is that by understanding a thing i don't mean that we are then to direct our lives according to an Ideal ( concept).

Osho popularised this concept of sex to super-consciousness. WE are in this new age far more liberated and don't repress the libido and use this alibi to justify our indulgence. Our obsession remains and this alone is the reason why sex retards our spiritual progress. It takes away too much of our time and energy and colors our vision. It may be the ultimate pleasure which thought can chew over and over again. As to the subject of pleasure and its various facets i had initiated a forum discussion and would write about it later.

Now authentic traditions have maintained that this energy could be transmuted. This was an essential part of medieval alchemy. The tantric tradition too without decrying it calls for the transmutation of this energy. they say that this energy could be converted to Ojas, a kind of spiritual energy. Kundalani or the serpent power supposedly based at the base of the spine according to a particular tradition, could be aroused by conservation of sexual energy. Mainstream spiritual traditions advocate total spiritual abstinence . Though i don't believe that one size fits all theory, i certainly feel that we must listen to what they have to say about it. Truth was never a matter of popular sentiment or vote.

abra's picture

Important spiritual issue

Sex is an important spiritual issue precisely because it is so misunderstood, demonized and a trigger to so many conditioned reactions in us.

I liked so much the following posts with regard:

http://www.gurusfeet.com/blog/how-can-energy-be-obscene - my NO. 1 - presenting the silliness and absurdity of our puritan view of sex.

http://www.gurusfeet.com/blog/sex-happens-be-sacred-religious-act - viewing sex as a completely religious and spiritual act.

http://www.gurusfeet.com/blog/do-we-need-transcend-sex-or-sex-divine - Should a spiritual person fight or get carried in sex?

http://www.gurusfeet.com/blog/behave-if-you-are-big-sex-party - bringing the experiences when participating in sex parties and suggesting that these experiences could be highly spiritual if one is aware.

http://www.gurusfeet.com/forum/my-sexual-urge-has-almost-disappeared - bringing the possible problems with the sexual urge and ectasy when one evolves spiritually and does not indulge completely in the sex fantasy anymore.

abra | Sun, 02/14/2010 - 07:43
tiru's picture


Balance is probably the name of the game regarding sex, food and maybe anything: not to indulge, not to abstain, not to get carried by, not to get addicted. Just do it with awareness.

Recommendation: put the tag "sex" to this post and you will get at the right column all other posts in that category

tiru | Sun, 02/14/2010 - 13:51
joejo's picture

Sex per se is not spiritual

I have read both the previous posts and the ones indicated above but firmly believe that Sex per se is not spiritual. If all energy is spiritual then anger, greed etc all are sacred. Sex energy could be called spiritual metaphorically for it can be transmuted to Ojas ( finer energy). But all that is involved in this is not known to the common man. Therefore i would definitely recommend balance for all.

joejo | Sun, 02/14/2010 - 14:20
tiru's picture

Define "sex per se"

Define what you exactly mean by "sex per se".

What you say is that there is nothing beyond, that you are the doer and the one who is calling the shots, that if you activate this energy (by following certain instincts of pleasure programmed in you) in a certain way than it is not spiritual and in another way it is.

Maybe you are right but I think it is important to notice that we find it hard to accept the possibility that maybe what we do is not what counts, that we are just spiritual toys.

tiru | Sun, 02/14/2010 - 17:34
joejo's picture

Define sex

Hi tiru

"sex per se" is nothing but pleasure. It may be the ultimate pleasure that thought can chew over again and again. So one of the things that we need to understand while understanding sex is pleasure. Glorification or condemnation of sex is the very opposite of understanding it.

So we need to look with an open mind and without cultural or personal biases.

joejo | Sun, 02/14/2010 - 23:43
B-friend's picture


Sexual desire for me was always based on the need for affection. Sex may be only a pleasure experience for some, but at it's root, is the need for affection..which is innocent. Many animals are affectionate. Almost all animals are designed with biological processes to encourage procreation. The mixture of these two create the confusion.

Balance seems to be the key as mentioned. To enjoy the human experience, you might as well do what humans do.

For those that question whether they are only human animals, they may seek to refine their existence through transcending human impulse. The tug of war between this play of existence creates another source for confusion.

Everyone must seemingly find their own way to their balance. From my experience abstinence creates regret..lol And can even create more sexual desire. In it's pure state, though, it allows for a much purer interaction with the opposite sex..or whatever your persuasion is.

B-friend | Thu, 02/18/2010 - 07:37
joejo's picture

Everything a Mixture of True & False

Well i agree with B-friend.

One important thing is to understand that there is nothing that is purely false. i guess one needs to look at both sides of the coin to get a complete picture. This is the same thing with Love. Mother loves her child and there is a lot of purity and divinity in that but its not entirely unselfish.

Some suggest that we must look at the false, then look at the truth in false and then look at truth at its purest.

joejo | Thu, 02/18/2010 - 08:11