Self expression should be effective

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Asvina saraghena ma madhunankta subhaspati
Yatha varchasvatim vacham avadani janan anu.

-Atharvaveda 9/1/19

O the gods of light, Ashvini Devas! Endow me with the
honey made by honeybees, so that I may speak to the
people in a sweet and illuminating tongue.

Speech is the chief medium of expression, It reveals the inherent qualities of the personality. Behavioural skills, talent, and inner strengths- all find expression through it. But on the obverse side, the blemishes and weaknesses are also mirrored. For a wise, even a short conversation is sufficient to assess the general qualitative level of a person. It does not take long for the pettiness of the petty and the goodness of the good to come out through this medium.

But although the chief medium, speech is not the only one; there are other agencies too, namely, facial expressions, eye expressions, modes of sitting and standing, gestures, and so on. These are all voices of personality which many times are able to communicate it fully even if the tongue is silent. The buoyancy of self-esteem, the gleam of self-confidence, the listlessness of self-contempt and the hesitations of latent complexes- all these feelings and emotions reveal themselves this way.

This expression of self is not an entirely unconscious or involuntary action. It can be improved and refined by the use of will power and by proper training. But for this, we have to understand and evaluate ourselves afresh, watch our conduct, and to resolve to root out the bad habits, which have crept into our characters. Are we ready for this? Ask this question to yourself repeatedly. If the answer is in the affirmative, you can definitely express yourself so effectively as to impress and even overwhelm those whom you meet.

For this, you will have first to keep close watch on the bodily gestures and postures, which constitute what is called the body language. How you walk and sit, what is your demeanor when meeting any person etc. are some aspects, which need a fresh look.

When you walk, the gait should reflect elegance and assurance. Moving with measured pace and comfortable ease is a sign of self confidence.

When you meet someone, meet affably and genially, regardless of the immediate situation you are in, i.e., even if you are busy or surrounded by problems. A conscious effort to generate such emotions within oneself helps the growth of control over feelings, cool assertiveness and bold self-confidence in life.

Now comes the turn of expression by the tongue. Often the mode of speaking, too, suffers from many faults of involuntary mannerisms, e.g., idiosyncratic repetition of particular words or phrases, speaking either haltingly or too rapidly, launching into speech immediately after taking
a seat and without surveying the situation,or alternatively, taking so much time to take off that the time is over. These defects are again the outward signs of the pressure of the unconscious. We should free ourselves from its hold.

Whenever we meet somebody or go to a public gathering, we should speak in a manner which is in tune with the ambiance

Only such achievers, through their impressive personalities, assume the mantle of true leadership in life and society.



dhorai's picture

what we need or i need!

good inner balance...
maintenance of balanced diet...
earnings to live better life...
maintenance of healthy habit formed...
lack of disturbance beyond our countrol...

let this poem speak:
"father bless us with healthy habits...
father bless us with only one direction if possible...
(even if more direction ability to withstand pressures)

father bless us with good foods...
father bless us with right friends...
father bless us with good manners...
father lead us not into temptations

mannersim is made of habits...
habits form by adoption of process liked or forced...
habits are thus framed by environment..
environment swings with power zone...
power zone are formed by elders...
and elders must be constructive...
constructive habits come again by adopting
right mode of working...
so its a cycle...(god forbid to stop disturbances that come with class of castes etc etc)

we live at mercy of men in higher power...

and hope the cyclic process be pure and good ....

let the universe bless us with all right things to be perfectly right...
dorai.

with love
dhorai.

dhorai | Sun, 11/29/2009 - 15:14