A fresh restart to a brave new world

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First you need to observe - which means not to suppress - to be able to bring the mental residues of the pain to the surface.

And we know that still this is not enough...

You need to accept whatever is observed - not to fight and not to try to control or to resist. Because if you fight what you managed to bring to the surface, you will only make it worse, you will strengthen the pain and will tunnel it back to the subconscious.

And we know that still this is not enough...

Now, you need to let it go - to leave it aside, to make sure you do not develop an attachment to the pain, enough with processing it, to ignore it and forget it. Otherwise, it will not evaporate but settle and become a part of you.

And it appears that even this is not enought...

Now you need to restart to a brave new world. After you processed your current pains - observed, accepted and let them go, you need to make a fresh start for the day. Your reality is determined by your thoughts and state of mind and if you do not make this fresh restart for a brave new world, your previous pains may still influence and dictate your daily events although you managed to diminish them in the processing. You make a fresh restart to a brave new world by consciously asking God to have a positive day with the characteristics that you wish this day to have. You can specify the opportunities you wish reality to bring to your threshold and you can design in your mind how the day will unfold. You will notice the great difference in the quality and positivity of the new day - it will really feel like a brave new world.

Important: you cannot restart your day to a brave new world without firstly going through all the first 3 stages: observe + accept + let go. If you try to impose positive thinking directly and brutally, this attempt will only suppress the existing pains and make them stronger.



seeker's picture

You are right about the missing part

I also felt that despite the enormous effectiveness of the accept+observe+letgo, there should be something more there. The restart seems to be this missing part according to my experience.

I like the precise distinction you make regarding the positive thinking.

Most people make generalized statements regarding positive thinking which like any other generalized statement do not depict reality. Some preach to always think positive (e.g. Dr. Joseph Murphy) and lead to suppression of what is not "positive" and others preach against positive thinking for the very same reason of suppression and thus lead to negative conditionings and negative reality.

The truth always lies in the special context and circumstances (I learnt with the years to disregard those who tend to generate generalized theories full of "confidence" about reality) - when positive thinking comes after the acceptance and observation when the mind is weak enough it happens to be effective. When one tries to apply it as it is, it turns to be counterproductive.

seeker | Wed, 09/23/2009 - 14:48
mika's picture

Plus

Plus, when old painful conditionings are removed and no new positive mental content is placed, the old conditionings tend sometimes to return. Therefore the fresh restart is an important addition.

This system works like a spell. It changed my life more than any psychological treatment or any other spiritual truth or practice. It eliminated any depression and simply made me a happy and relaxed person. There is nothing needed beyond this.

mika | Thu, 09/24/2009 - 07:12
banana's picture

Reverse engineering of the mind

I've been following here the discovery of the exact procedure of awareness, lesson by lesson, no compromise, scrupulous research, no shortcuts, no speculations, no sloagans, no mind, no seeking enlightenment or other concepts, simply the eaxct formula to obtain happiness tested in real time for verification. It is so rare these days. This is what I call a sacred work, a sacred service.

First the observation. Then after a few weeks I noticed the seeds of acceptance. Then came after a few months the surprising stage of letting go. And now the complementing part of new restart, of introducing positive content instead.

The truth unfolding itself if you are willing to listen. The truth unfolds itself if you are earnest enough to trace the mind's reaction patterns, reverse engineer it to the source code and then consciously act while being present instead of the old unconscious reactions.

banana | Mon, 09/28/2009 - 09:04
Phroggy's picture

It's a good exploration, but

It's a good exploration, but too analytical. Look intuitively at the larger picture, the context in which mind itself operates. Notice, instead, the nature of dualistic experience and you'll see the futility of what you're trying to do.

Phroggy | Mon, 09/28/2009 - 22:19
samsara's picture

I don't see anything analytical

When you test it you see that nothing is analytical in it. Maybe, it looks so when you evaluate it analytically.

Just do it and you will see how powerful this system is, it is easy, nothing to analyze or speculate: accept + observe + let go + new world.

samsara | Fri, 02/12/2010 - 09:12
Phroggy's picture

It all works, and yet it

It all works, and yet it doesn't. This is so very hard to accept that most never will, looking for something that works until the very last breath of life has come. At that exact moment, many finally reach the ultimate understanding. When it is clear that there is nothing left to lose, that's when the grip is finally loosened, not as a grasping of a final practice or technique that really works, but in letting go of all techniques, all seeking for something other than what is here.

When there is nothing left to observe, accept, let go, when the positive thinking is seen through, what will you do next? When self love is a reality and there is no option but to accept all as it is, will you be happy? will you be free? Will there be another method, another practice, a better meditation? What will you do when there's nothing left to do? Will you give up then, or count the number of breaths until you have nothing left to lose.

"Freedom's just another word for nuthin left to lose, and nuthin means nuthin if you ain't free."

Phroggy | Thu, 09/24/2009 - 01:21
samsara's picture

Doesn't work for whom?

Maybe it doesn't work for you. For me and according to what I see about others - this is the only thing that works at the end of the day, especially more than analytical analysis.

samsara | Fri, 02/12/2010 - 09:09
silencio's picture

Brilliant complementing addition

Brilliant complementing addition , thank you nancy, I'm following your posts and quotes earnestly and learn a lot.

Your meticulous observation regarding positive thinking is innovative. I have always encountered the two extreme opinions of generic yes or no (which I once favored) and your middle way not only that it reconciles between the generic opinions by introducing context and a specific case, it makes a lot of sense and seems to work like a charm.

I would add the following observations: I found out that the new mental start should be applied both "tactically" and "strategically". Tactically - after you processed a specific emotion like a certain fear, upon letting it go, you "replace" it with love or something else that feels right for you. The same way, strategically, after a heavy session or period in which you happened to process painful emotions, you would embark on a new restart by declaring your wish for the following. I do my sessions in the morning and now I'm declaring the nature of my new restart and the unfolding day happens to be so different.

(I don't believe I'm talking favorable about positive thinking :-) but I must admit it does work in that specific context)

silencio | Sat, 09/26/2009 - 06:47
Annie's picture

An important part to the processing of pains

This is an important part to the processing of pains. I've also noticed that after you manage to kiss a painful emotion goodbye by observing + accepting + letting it go, it may still return (the power of old conditioning) manytimes after night sleep - this additional part at the end puts something else in the place of the old emotion and makes sure it will not return, at least not in the same power as before.

Annie | Sun, 01/03/2010 - 06:58
Gilana's picture

Question

I'm interested in your process, but unsure about the positive thinking...

you say: "You make a fresh restart to a brave new world by consciously asking God to have a positive day with the characteristics that you wish this day to have. You can specify the opportunities you wish reality to bring to your threshold and you can design in your mind how the day will unfold."

Isn't this a playground for the ego to decide what it wants? Maybe I'm reading it wrong...asking God to step into your day sound promising, but after that...how do you know what to ask for and if it's your will or God's?

Gilana | Fri, 02/12/2010 - 06:08
samsara's picture

What's wrong with ego?

What's wrong with ego? Leave it aside. If you had the opportunity to meet a golden fish and ask for a wish would you been checking if it is ego or not? You would have just asked what you wish in your heart.

This system is simple and this is the beauty of it as long as you allow it to remain simple: after you processed the pain and kissed it goodbye you can ask to have something more pleasant instead, something that feels positive that correlates with the previous negative thing, a filler, a substitute. Ask whatever you like - it may be ego-motivated, it may be not the perfect thing to have - you will notice that after you get it and if it is not the right thing for you, you can always get rid of it naturally or by applying this system.

samsara | Fri, 02/12/2010 - 09:18