End of suffering is so simple

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I want to scream it so loud that everybody will hear it but people are not listening:

The way to happiness is so simple -

You just have to observe and accept, rather than resist, whatever is!

So damn simple! Took me years of big complicated spiritual theories and practices while overlooking this tiny precious diamond that was there everywhere all along. It was too simple...

For cry out loud, you don't need to waste time reading endless books, formulating complicated spiritual theories, it's here and so simple. Give it a try, what can you lose?

This is the practical way to separate the sufferer from the pain - instead of resisting the pain in order to make pain disappear, accept the pain and the suffer will disappear.

Read it again, all the essence lies in the previous sentence. Notice the difference between pain and suffer.

This is the practical way to stop the mind's prime erroneous strategy of resisting pain assuming that thus pain will vanish.

This is the practical way to break your identification with the false.

Intellectually, you know this very well. I knew it very well. We read it in every second transcript of satsangs, Eckhart Tolle emphesizes it, Osho emphesizes it, Krishnamurti emphasizes it. Intellectually you know it very well but have you seriously adopted it into practice?

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santthosh kumaar | Tue, 07/01/2008 - 05:19
leo's picture


How do you "discover" and how do you "realize"?

leo | Mon, 07/28/2008 - 15:25
yoda23's picture


Discover is when you dwell into the situation and reflect upon it. Realise is when u accept the situation and learn from it and then move on.

yoda23 | Tue, 04/23/2013 - 11:16
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

I Agree.

I don't believe it could have been said any better, different words could have been used but their meanings would have been the same.

--Elijah "NatureBoy"--
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Elijah_NatureBoy | Tue, 04/23/2013 - 19:31
nelo's picture

This is exactly the problem the blogger is shouting about

People, you have this simple and powerful tool: accept+observe. It works! Its power is in its simplicity. Anyone who tried zillion methods and techniques and then got to accept+observe wants to start shouting like the lady who wrote the blog: the solution is damn simple.

And she is shouting and then people, exactly as she predicted, do not listen, they add concepts, they add theories. Illusion, reality, discovery, put these aside for a moment and just accept and observe.

When you add anything to acceptance, it is not acceptance anymore, it somehow always introduces a sophisticated hidden resistance. Acceptance does not need additions.

Just try it: leave aside your theories for a while, take something that bothers you and just observe it and accept it as it is. Acceptance means that you are willing to adopt the possibility, just a possibility, that this bothering something is going to stay with you forever (otherwise it is not really acceptance but a clever way to indirectly resist, you are still trying to eradicate it). Just try it and see the results without expecting anything (Expectation also introduces resistance through the back door).

nelo | Tue, 08/05/2008 - 22:35
Phroggy's picture

Simple is not easy

Yes, acceptance, nonresistance, surrender, is the way. The rest of the spiritual process is the usually slow realization of the futility of doing any of that, which finally results in it happening in your effortlessness. It IS effortlessness we are talking about, yes? And so it is not something that can be brought about by effort or any kind of practice. It comes about to a great degree through mental clarity; through the realization of futility, and ultimately it is 'accomplished' only through Truth Realization; the disidentification with the mind/body which suffers.

Recognizing that inviting pain is an effective means of lessening it is wonderful, but of course we don't have to imagine very long to come up with physical trauma and emotional pain scenarios that far exceed the person's ability to embrace, and so it is not the answer to suffering. The answer hasn't changed since Buddha's light bulb moment.


Phroggy | Tue, 07/29/2008 - 06:58
divine intervention's picture

not inviting pain nor resisting pain

not inviting pain nor resisting pain...

Just accepting and observing whatever pain there is right now...

Accept and observe look at first like names of actions that we do but actually this is because of the deceiving aspect of language. Acceptance is the non-doing of resisting (a natural reflex of the mind) and observing is the non-doing of suppressing (another reflex of the mind) therefore accepting and observing are not something that we do, they just happen when we stop the doing of the mind's reflexes of resisting and suppressing.

And they are not two different things, Acceptance and observation are two qualities of the same state, let's call it awareness.

divine intervention | Tue, 07/29/2008 - 07:15
mayasurfer's picture

Accepting what is

open to the moment, wide open, empty, surrender....
thanking, bowing....
Being....just Being. So simple. Simpler than simple...
and the golden key is breathing, breathing, breathing....
again and again and again.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

mayasurfer | Sun, 11/16/2008 - 11:26
lilian's picture

Thank you, so beautifully

Thank you, so beautifully said

lilian | Sun, 11/16/2008 - 17:36
LeslieTripathy's picture

Being stoic helps

I believe one shudnt hold onto anything,coz d more yu think,d more yu get depressed,if its a sad thought,shud be a little stoic and detached

LeslieTripathy | Wed, 01/14/2009 - 07:38
shond's picture

Absolutely right

Absolutely right, we should leave the pain and not concentrate on it too much but it should come after we have observed the pain consciously and accepted it otherwise our "not holding onto it" is merely suppressing the feeling which makes it even stronger.

The solution as always is in the middle: do not ignore it completely and do not give it too much attention: accept it, observe it and then ignore it and move on.

shond | Wed, 01/14/2009 - 10:41
Gigs's picture

Any practical examples?

Don't Resist! Observe and accept! So easily said and easily understood!! Would anyone pls share an experience where this has been applied? How do we deal with all the injustice, violence, abuse?? Do we just accept?? What if an incident affects us physically? What happens?

Gigs | Sat, 01/17/2009 - 16:40
Phroggy's picture

Good questions

I like when it gets real and personal. There are a lot of things about 'how it all works' that needs to be not only understood but seen clearly, and many of these realizations are tied together. The underlying beliefs that cause us to resist, to judge, to fear, to want to fix, have to be challenged. Acceptance comes about through the realization of the falsity of these beliefs, not from our mental choices to not resist and accept.
I think I'll do a blog on the subject and see what shows up.

Phroggy | Sat, 01/17/2009 - 22:35
Mind's picture

Root Cause

It is not so easy to accept and observe our suffering.Suffering is spontaneous action of the mind arising due to your deep rooted beliefs.Until and Unless our beliefs disappear we continue to suffer.Belief in any form is a burden on mind,deep rooted beliefs which we may/maynot be aware of is the reason behind mind's spontaneous action.Mostly people who believe in morality(right and wrong)suffer a lot.Only when the root cause namely Belief is released then only there is a space for acceptance :)

Mind | Thu, 02/19/2009 - 11:23
alok60420's picture

root cause

when you say that it is not easy to accept and observe and that beliefs come in our way ,is that not another belief of the mind.not yours but,is it not the mind saying its not easy.

alok60420 | Sat, 03/13/2010 - 19:41
davids's picture

Accept doesn't mean not to act

Your questions is very good and is always raised when there is talking of acceptance.

Acceptance doesn't mean not to act, rather when you accept the result is that you do not react automatically.

Our resistance to 'whatever is right now in this very moment' is futile. It is here, it is real. We may be able to shape the next moment but resistance to this moment will not do the work. Out of acceptance of whatever is right now, you can better cope with problems and challenges and act.

I suggest you to read Eckhart Tolle in the "Power of Now" - he deals with this issue extensively.

davids | Fri, 02/20/2009 - 08:04
dhorai's picture

pain can be escaped!

yoga sutras say
pain that not yet come can be escaped...

like film "baba"
u must gatam gatam "past is past"
and adhere to good ways...

look jesus too warned fear not of men who destroy the body but rather fear men who destroy the body and soul to hell.

the best method is taking the brain to thoughtless wareness
again and again...

or wear turban....pl do not laugh its serious.
with love

dhorai | Sat, 04/18/2009 - 05:50
suzame's picture

pain does not need to be escaped

This is precisely what this post talks about - by escaping, by resisting you create the suffering. By escaping, by resisting you give more power to the pain.

I think that releasing resistance (I prefer this term rather than "acceptance" because acceptance is merely defined in a negative way as "not resisting" and many times is misunderstood) is the real "The Secret". In addition to being a true path to liberation from suffering, it provides a path to many other qualities and freedoms, such as from the "I" who is the one who resists.

suzame | Sun, 07/26/2009 - 11:28
Gilana's picture


I'm old, but went skateboarding with my son anyway to show him how fun it is. I fell and skinned three inch pieces off of each knee.

Suffering would be, "Why did this happen to me?? I always get hurt! I can't skateboard well enough! I'm too old! It hurts! It hurts! Take care of me!" I would think about it most of the time.

Pain is, "There is the pain again. I'll take an aspirin and use that spray stuff on it again. I need to do the laundry and get my son to the store. 'Son can you pick that up for me? Thanks, let's get to the store.' Oh, there is that pain again." etc.

It's like a necklace. You know it's there, it's just far down on the list of things that are paid attention to--and it it not give much importance.

(Thank you for the opportunity to share this. It reaffirms my dedication to love and allows me to share where I have grown to.)

Gilana | Thu, 10/08/2009 - 17:37
Quantum's picture

Define "Observe"

Is it the same as "think about?" When I "observe," my mind thinks about what is being observed, otherwise, I would simply be staring blankly into space. Thus, my mind still comes into play while observing.

So, observing still involves some degree mind activity does it not? Without mind, one would be catatonic, or comatose, with eyes open. A mindless zombie.

Quantum | Thu, 09/17/2009 - 01:40
zoya's picture

Give up the analysis

As I think someone already wrote you elsewhere, throw the analysis and just do the observation.

The thinking about is just a neurotic pattern of reaction our mind got used to. If you want to discover what it is the observe or to be or to meditate just try to do it and the answers will come. Otherwise you will not experience anything but just get stuck in the mind asking questions after questions.

zoya | Thu, 09/17/2009 - 05:23
Quantum's picture

This one is good

"..just try to do it and the answers will come. Otherwise you will not experience anything but just get stuck in the mind asking questions after questions."

Excellent point and advice.

I copied that quote into my journal. That quote itself could very well summarize the essence of this entire forum.

Thank you.


Quantum | Thu, 09/17/2009 - 17:35
Quantum's picture

The 3 months...

...I find that you are correct.

The first poster is correct.

Someone quoted Jesus above about "not resisting evil."

Here is another that since I was a kid vaguely intuitively understood, but did not rationally understand as I do now in light of this thread:

"Take up your cross and follow me." {i.e. follow my example).

Well now.. my intuitive is leaking out again, and I suddenly feel compelled to share something very personal. I don't I don't regret it after I hit send.

Year ago, I think 1998, or 1999, somewhere in that era. During prayer (I'm a Christian, see, the Roman Catholic variety....but don't spit on me yet...I embrace the value of Eastern Meditation, and I honor Buddha as I honor the man named Jesus who was also a very advanced Buddha). Anyway, the "feeling" came to me which expressed gave itself expression with these words, which I wrote down, and placed in a special place:

"If you carry your cross willingly, God will help you with it, and in the end he will reward you."

The overlay scene that placed out in my mind during that incoming expression was of the Sorrowful Mysteries, basically, as depected in teh Passion of Christ, particularly how he carried his cross, endured, accepted, did not complain, all the way to the bitter end. And in the end...what happened? Well..according to the story, his body turned into light, eventually. Glorified, as they might say.

During meditation, with my eyelse closed, I search internall for both physical and emotional sensations, if they are negative, specially the emotional variety, I "feel"--not think about--but "feel" the psycho-somatic sensation of that blocked energy, until it releases...I feel...


Hope this makes sense, and adds to the value of this thread. If not, I'm sorry I posted it.

Quantum | Mon, 01/18/2010 - 18:30
Quantum's picture

What the heck?

What is the mater with this website? I get more typos here than I notice while I'm typing, than on any other application.

I simply cannot accept them. (lol) But please excuse them. My bad.

Quantum | Mon, 01/18/2010 - 18:33
yoda23's picture


Accepting everything as part of a whole makes u accept everything for what it is. If there is no sorrow how are we going to know true happiness. As there is perfection in perfection.... There is also perfection in imperfection. There is saying life is a bed of roses, it's true but some tend to see only roses and get angry with god because they don't see happiness, but they forgot about the thorns that come with the rose. Lol accept everything and become nothing, then you will always see god in everything. Go beyond the form.

yoda23 | Tue, 04/23/2013 - 11:25
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

Ever So True!

I discovered the difference between pain and suffering some time ago. Pain gives warning of something in the body not functioning according to the norm. Suffering is rejecting the pain rather than searching for the cause to eliminate it. Suffering is caused by our conditioned nature to desire only pleasure or a neutral state and reject any pain or undesired thing.

As a 34 year nomadic wanderer not willing to use medical treatments, I've been in situations where there was nothing for me to do except accept the pains. I've found salt free diets, except what's in raw vegetation, and keeping the body's water levels up lessons the pains. Taking nothing for pains cause the body to reduce it to recognition levels but not so severe we want to take anything for it. What I discovered was pay attention to the pains and the body heals itself faster than going to medical facilities.

I've since realized most people suffer only because of accepting our conditioned state and desiring the quick fix called "treating the symptoms and not the cause". The treating of symptoms only causes escalation of the cause and growth of the condition until many times the body isn't able to heal itself at all, resulting in discarnation.

Have you questioned your beliefs? Reason the different concepts until all pros and cons are integrated into the 64,800 degrees of your vision.
--Elijah "The NatureBoy"--

Elijah_NatureBoy | Sun, 08/15/2010 - 16:54
omsairam's picture

i agree with you

i agree with you elizah...and in that state it becomes more tough to change our mindset...in case of pain it is more easy to knoe the exact point of pain but in suffering we always blame to the circumstances...
after acceptance of the conditioned state doesnt it becom more tough to get ourself backk to the rite attitude...?
i think that makes it a tragedy...plz think over it

omsairam | Tue, 09/28/2010 - 14:30
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

Yes, Verfy Difficult!

Yes Omsairam, the conditioned mind is very difficult to break, impossible without help from a spiritual guru. They can be from the spiritual realm of someone from this realm whose been guided from the spiritual realm into overcoming it.
Have you questioned your beliefs? Reason the different concepts until all pros and cons are integrated into the 64,800 degrees of your vision.
--Elijah "The NatureBoy"--

Elijah_NatureBoy | Tue, 09/28/2010 - 22:37
Cliffhanger's picture

Observing without judgment

Thank you for this post with the big colorful letters! The Truth is so simple, but it takes us to a place where the mind breaks down and cannot understand. In my experience, staying present, and non-judgmentally observing the emotions in that space where the mind has nothing to hold onto is quite a challenge. We can only keep trying, for the sake of all beings.


Cliffhanger | Mon, 08/23/2010 - 17:11
angel76's picture

Most people do not look for the end of suffering

Great article.

The problem is that most people do not look for the end of suffering, they look for excitement to fill their emptiness within and thus look for enlightenment, supernatural phenomena, spiritual fireworks and so on.

Hence, those people, though suffering, will look at the above most valuable truth of acceptence and observation as something nice but not enough until... until suffering will be too much for them to bear.

angel76 | Fri, 07/29/2011 - 16:25
MAI's picture


Thank you.This is beautiful.
Its given me a brilliant start this morning...woke up really early ,its not yet dawn,and this is the first thing I read...
What a lovely gift.


MAI | Sat, 09/29/2012 - 00:47