Don't forget to also accept the consequences

avi's picture

Average: 4.8 (8 votes)

Sometimes accepting something undesirable means also to accept the undesirable consequences of this something.

Accept not only your fears but also the dreams you wished to fulfill but couldn't due to these fears.

And the dreams of others you had no wish to fulfill but had to.

Don't forget to also accept the consequences of your fears, especially the fears of death and of living beings.

Annie's picture

Total acceptance

Otherwise our acceptance is not total. The tacit consequences will pull out the residues of the original fear on which they are based and it will grow anew.

Many times to accept the consequences is harder than to accept the original fear.

Annie | Thu, 11/03/2011 - 04:35
davids's picture

True observation

This is a great and important observation. What you say is that we need to watch the whole perimeter of something that bothers us. The scope of our acceptance does not end in a singular aspect but is interconnected and so our acceptance should be accordingly.

I was faced with this dilemma while exercising complete acceptance.

Say, I accept the painful fact that I don't like my boring work. But let's say I have no other choice right now. So I accept that feeling and keep on working there. Soon after I managed to accept totally that painful feeling, a secondary related one will stand out: there is also that feeling of frustration that I'm not working as a painter as I dreamed and planned in my childhood. If I am not diligent enough to accept and observe this consequent feeling, the whole pile will collapse.

davids | Thu, 11/03/2011 - 05:44
bonya basu's picture

Be free with your thoughts......

Even if everything sure it is not the gain experience through this process...which is very important part of any evolution.
It is altogether a NEW BEGINNING....TRUE PURPOSE!!!!
Never limit your thoughts with calculative consequences.
Limiting your thoughts means not allowing the NATURAL RYHTHM.

bonya basu | Thu, 11/03/2011 - 11:48
joejo's picture

Who Accepts & What is that resists

What is actually meant by acceptance and who does and what is it that resists. What is true understanding that leads to transformation?

joejo | Thu, 11/03/2011 - 14:47
avi's picture

These are questions of the

These are questions of the mind...

You can truly realize what acceptance is only through the process. You will clearly notice it when it is there. Meanwhile here is a piece I wrote once about that -

who does - if you ask it as per the Advaita style then it is not the right place, first accept than inquire. Doing it at that point (as in many flavors of Advaita) only serves as a rationalization mechanism of the mind to avoid coping with painful feelings.

True understanding? Transformation? Why bother yourself with these when you are handed over this miraculous tool of acceptance?

avi | Thu, 11/03/2011 - 19:27
joejo's picture

Only Observation Escape

My only observation is that our natural instinct is to escape from "what is" for we often do not know how to meet the challenge squarely. Various theories of Gods will or surrender is an outcome of a desire to lesson suffering.

The path of truth is a razors edge and difficult to tread says the upnishad (veda, Katha). If acceptance is related to rejection then it cannot be very different from it.

To "SEE" things as they are one need neither accept nor reject.

joejo | Sat, 11/05/2011 - 01:53