What "being judgmental" realy is

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Judgmental is not stating an opinion or even labeling something as "good" or "bad". Being judgmental is when based on one quality of someone or something you conclude about his whole nature, about all his other qualities. You judge his wholeness based on one aspect.

People are quick in labeling statements of others as judgmental. One expresses an opinion during an argument and the other accuses him of being judgmental. We all have been in both sides of this situation, sometimes as the accuser, sometimes as the accused.

Is expression of an opinion means we are judgmental? Not necessarily!

A blind man walks on a busy highway unknowing he is about to be hit by the running cars around him. You shout at him: "hey, you are doing the wrong thing, you can't see, I can see - you are about to be hit by a car if you do not return to the sidewalk"

Have you been judgmental in your behavior with the blind man? Of course not! You were expressing an opinion, you were labeling the man's doing as wrong but still you were definitely not judgmental.

So what is judgmental then?

Judgmental does not mean stating an opinion. Even saying that something is "bad" or "good" is not necessarily judgmental (some will argue that labeling something as "good" or "bad" is wrong. That's another discussion but it is not necessarily judgmental). Not being judgemental does not mean to be opinion-less, spineless, non-skeptical, not being exquisite, being indifferent to whatever. If this was the case then no discussion or analysis of reality would be able.

Judgmental is something else. It is when based on one quality of someone or something you conclude about his whole nature, about all his other qualities. You judge his wholeness based on one aspect.

For example, it is not judgmental to say that "this man who committed a crime did a bad thing", it is an opinion (which can be accepted or not). However, it is judgmental to say that "this man who committed a crime is a bad man".

Why is it important that we will be accurate about what judgmental is? Because otherwise when we are indeed judgmental in the accurate sense, we will not notice it and being judgmental in the accurate sense is a great hindrance in our spiritual and personal development.

It is also important to remember the accurate meaning of being judgmental because next time we find ourselves feeling guilty about expressing an opinion, we could check it again to see if we were really judgmental or not and not automatically suppress the expressing of what we think and feel.



avi's picture

I think being judgmental is

I think being judgmental is also when we state an opinion about someone or something which is completely baseless.

It is aligned with the above in the sense that again we are concluding about something based on something else (my prejudice, for example) or worse: with no base at all.

avi | Wed, 06/04/2008 - 17:54
maeszi's picture

To judge some would be to ask yourself what not going right in

your own life. Happy u Happy day

maeszi | Mon, 08/06/2012 - 09:01
dank's picture

Being judgemental is not bad

I think it is time to get rid of this spiritually-correct rule of not being judgmental.

It reminds me the stupidity of "positive thinking"/

Being judgmental is important in order to tell the difference between a crook and a guru, between the right path for your development and a waste of time.

People, set free from this artificial way of thinking you imposed on yourself.

dank | Sat, 06/07/2008 - 08:43
gurusloth's picture

I totally agree with you

I totally agree with you

gurusloth | Mon, 09/12/2011 - 14:04
solomon's picture

Judgemental = argument + emotion

I agree that judgmental is not just when stating an opinion of good/bad.

I regard something as judgmental when a heavy emotional load is attached to the argument.

solomon | Mon, 06/09/2008 - 16:37
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

Being Judgmental Is...

In the most basic sense, judgmental is to take something out of the actual state and make it an abstract. An abstract is a concept not having a concrete basis such as good and evil, love and hate, god and devil, pretty and ugly, and the like which one person will label the opposite of what another labels it.

Consider the example in the opening post, "it is not judgmental to say that "this man who committed a crime did a bad thing", it is an opinion (which can be accepted or not). However, it is judgmental to say that "this man who committed a crime is a bad man"." The act was a crime, to act contrary to established laws, but saying "it was a bad thing" was to make it a judgment rather than leaving it just a crime.

Seekers of wisdom will violate the established laws, commit a crime, for the purpose of determine circumstances when the laws should and shouldn't be valid. To the common person seekers of wisdom looks bipolar with the exception they know when they cross the center line. Are wisdom seekers bad because they discovers times when laws shouldn't be valid? No, although they committed a crime.

To leave things in the concrete rather than making a concert thing into an abstract would eliminate judgments. Therefore, judgment is making the concrete into abstracts.

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Have you questioned your beliefs? Reason the different concepts until all pros and cons are integrated into the 64,800 degrees of your vision.
--Elijah "The NatureBoy"--

Elijah_NatureBoy | Fri, 09/17/2010 - 02:39
Alex johnsmith's picture

It is also important to

It is also important to remember the accurate meaning of being judgmental because next time we find ourselves feeling guilty about expressing an opinion, we could check it again to see if we were really judgmental or not and not automatically suppress the expressing of what we think and feel.

Alex johnsmith | Mon, 01/10/2011 - 13:54
Elijah_NatureBoy's picture

Judgment's Definition!

I agree with you Alex, that was why I posted that definition. People often times mistake opinions for judgments.
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Have you questioned your beliefs? Reason the different concepts until all pros and cons are integrated into the 64,800 degrees of your vision.
--Elijah "NatureBoy"--

Elijah_NatureBoy | Mon, 01/10/2011 - 23:56
maeszi's picture

To be judgemental towards others regardless

would mean taking alook at yourself and ask what is not going right in my our life that u have to judge others.
So to be judgemental can mean you are unhappy in yourself , your world or thigs just anit going right for you.

maeszi | Thu, 08/02/2012 - 16:28
pradeep's picture

judgment

Pradeep Singh Shaktawat

i think its depends on us that what we wants.
i mean to say that judgment is vary according to person as per personal feelings, emotions experience of life etc. on behalf of all these things we judge something.

pradeep | Fri, 04/22/2011 - 09:27
Papalam's picture

judgement

for me, the word judgement in the wider sense mean I am defining something as separate to me to enhance my sense of existence... I am judging 'me' relative to 'that'... the stronger my judgement of 'that' the stronger my sesne of 'me'

non judgement does feel natural and very healthy... it changes my entire experience of reality...

but, most of the time,,ME rules the roost... and I'm ok with that... part of being human... and a wonderfulness that drives us humans in many (often crazy!!) ways.

I do prefer connectedness :-)

Papalam | Sat, 10/22/2011 - 07:02